Ask anyone who knows me, I never intend to get married. Its nothing religious, customary and I am not gay; its just a personal preference. I rather live single happily than risk that for an unhappy marriage.
But I do get it that there are some practising Sikh men out there who are having trouble getting ladies. Why? Firstly, the men themselves are not the confident sort. Amongst my cousins, the most suave one is the person that wears a turban and a beard, not those who cut their hair.
Secondly, there is a problem amongst Sikh women that they do not want to marry a Sikh turbaned man.
I do not need to go far. Some of my most beloved cousins have told me that they would never want to marry a practising Sikh, even though their own fathers are practising Sikhs.
There are forums online dedicated to this topic. And there are some good points that some make. There would be many Sikh men that would not even consider marrying ladies who choose to wear the Sikh Turban. I know as a matter of fact that this is true. I do not think that these people are right at all. There would be some who would not want to have women that are vegetarians. I think that this is less likely, but yes I do know that these people exist.
But there are other things that are utterly not true and baseless. Here are some.
1) Men do not like it and make fun of me if we have "hairy hands" ( as in hair on the skin (dermis) of the arm).
2) Men do not like it if we have hairy legs.
3) Men like plucked eyebrows, not "bushy" ones.
These two are very common mistruths and let me tell you it is utter bull! Unless you have super long, gorilla-length-hair caused by Hypertrichosis (Werewolf Syndrome) on your arms and legs; nobody is going to give a shit. Trust me, I am a guy. Like girls talk about guys, guys talk about girls, and no one and I mean no one; ever say or think that hair on hand or legs are unattractive. And, men do not even notice your eyebrows! Unless they are gay or creeps.
4) Men do not like hairy armpits.
No. Again, if you have very long armpit hair that will be issues, but majority of the time no one gives cares! Ok. I would say that this is not as unanimous as the earlier issues, sometimes associating it with bad smell. But that can be doused down with perfume.
However, there are some guys that are "turned on" by armpit hair, those are creeps; Stay away from them!
5) Men do not like hairy privates.
I am not even going there but just to say that it is utterly not true. Also, we do not care how fair or dark it is.
6) Men think that drunk girls are fun, and girls who do not drink are a bore.
If you are fun, you are fun. Regardless if you drink or not. It is a personality trait. If guys tell you that they prefer women drunk, they are looking for trouble.
7) Men like woman in heels / lipstick / ear rings / bangles/ nose rings / etc.
No, they grab attention, but not attarction.
Okay. Now that all these stuff are covered, what do men really see first? They would see your face first, and then move gaze down to your legs. Thats it. Then its you and your personality. If they notice you from the back, there is only slight difference in the manner that they gaze.
And ladies please do not say that I am not going to go out with that dude because the dude has a Turban or has short hair. Similarly for guys, do not care if girl is wearing a Turban or has short hair. Its really superficial. In the long run, its the both of you and how you are going to live together and all those stuff that your mum can explain it to you better than me.
My mum did not choose my dad, her brother did. If he were to be as judgemental as many people were at that time, and not see my dad for what he was rather than him having short hair, I would not be here today.
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